Your Engagement Needs a Goal


August 16th, 2008

Back in January, I wrote a post discussing the various meanings of the word “engagement” on the heels of my two good friends, Jenna and Thomas, making the choice to get hitched. It’s time for the follow-up post, because I’m sitting here near Westons Mills, NY, getting ready to attend their wedding this afternoon.

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So, what’s important to note here is that engagement, a word we hear so often, is not an end in itself. (Duh.) Engagement for engagement’s sake is useless unless there’s a goal and you move toward it. Here, this engagement involved my friends both moving toward the goal of being husband and wife, and here they are today ready to exchange vows.

In many cases when we hear about being engaged online, the love story comes from having a goal in mind and not mindlessly participating just to say you were there. Maybe your goal is to obtain information. Maybe it’s to contribute something meaningful. Maybe it’s to help someone and in the process make some money. Maybe it’s to build strong brand awareness. It could be anything, I guess. The times when people and organizations get involved and engaged online that work come when they’re not just taking up space or “doing this social media thing” because it’s shiny, but because it’s a meaningful way to reach a goal.

Now, a two-part call to action:

1) Have you seen instances where people or companies (most likely it’s companies) are trying new media tools, saying they’re engaged but really not actively working toward anything? Do you feel that your “engagement” on the Web is goal-oriented?

2) Do you have a message for Jenna and Thomas? Leave a comment for them and I’ll make sure they see your congratulations and warm wishes. [I’m sure I’ll have pictures up in a few days!]

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2 Responses to “Your Engagement Needs a Goal”

  1. Brian Polensky on August 16, 2008 10:35 am

    A- Please give my congratulations to your friends Jenna and Thomas. Marriage is truly a blessing and although it’s one of the best things I have ever done, it’s also one of the hardest. Please tell them this: It’s the two of them (plus any pets, children, baggage, relatives, etc) against the world. The best advice I ever got was from the Deacon of our church, a truly great man, and his wife. They told us never to go to bed angry, which is not uncommon advice. What the did tell us is everytime you get in a fight and are about to yell/argue/get heated in debate, strip down all your clothes. It is very hard to yell at someone when you are both naked! It sounds just crazy but is the most wonderful advice I have received about marriage. It will strengthen their marriage and is also a ton of fun!

    Tell them good luck and enjoy the wedding!

  2. Christopher S. Penn on August 19, 2008 5:46 am

    Here is a lesson I’ve learned from 7 years of marriage so far:

    You can be right.
    You can be happy.
    You probably can’t be both.
    Choose wisely.

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